Gender Imbalance Still Haunts Me

So yesterday tweeps had the unfortunate duty of discussing the Gender Rule…Again! I say unfortunate because however much we talk about the 2/3 gender rule we will always come to the conclusion that you can’t force the  electorate to vote in someone if they do not so wish. Now 5 months ago I posted a post that was meant to belittle the so-called Alpha-females who at the same time demand for this piece of law to be implemented, crawled back into my shell praying nothing would get me back up. I mean at times I almost lost my cool (you’ll agree f you see the number of drafts I’ve got) with things like ODM/CORD constantly being on the defensive and reactive positions  (why can’t this group change the tone and be on the offensive for a change) then there was the unwarranted and stupid public outcry over Bahati’s stunt at a privately-sponsored public rally (Kenyans with their entitlement issues) and the list continues. Isn’t it thus amusing that the very last topic I rambled about is the same one that would bring me back here again?

Let’s get something straight. I’m the most leftist any liberal can be. I just don’t support women empowerment,  I am for gender equity. But today it’s not really an issue of gender equality. It’s of future leaders wanting to be handed their leadership roles on a silver platter. I need to have faith in my leader to be able to combat any situation and I don’t see that happening if said leader got their (I’ll start using gender-specific pronouns after this) positions through a functionality that didn’t guarantee finding the best. Here’s one tweet I find really catchy and by far the only sensible one in the FOR #GenderRuleKENYA Team.

But is it really empowering if you give out handouts? Isn’t that what you’re doing when you set aside seats like Women Reps to satisfy the female egos. Or can you tell me what else the holders of that position have done for the four years they’ve been in parliament? We have a phrase in my culture that goes “mia olowu kar rech.” Loosely translates to “Give me a fishing pole instead of fish.” The statement is self explanatory.

There was also this one whom I tried to reason with.

I fail to understand how our constitution as is does not guarantee equal opportunities for people of any economic or social background. There is a no discrimination clause somewhere in between those pages. (Full Disclosure: never read the book.) So we argued about her use of the term earn. Well it wasn’t really an argument as much as it was a statement of a fact. I told her there is no way the women will be earning their seats if they get no competition and she requested to revisit the meaning of the term earn so I pulled a definition from merriam-webster

“Earn.” Merriam-Webster, n.d. Web. 6 Oct. 2016.


//In case it doesn’t appear as I expect it to after post here is the meaning verbatim


  • 1 a :  to receive as return for effort and especially for work done or services rendered     b :  to bring in by way of return <bonds earning 10 percent interest>

  • 2 a :  to come to be duly worthy of or entitled or suited to <she earned a promotion>      b :  to make worthy of or obtain for <the suggestion earned him a promotion>



She never responded after that.

And finally there is this train of tweets that loosely purports that male members of legislative houses do not represent women’s interest. That’s what I and most people out there get when we see tweets like these. That’s what you mean!



Let me remind you that there was a woman in the ballot during the 2013 General Election and the 52% that @EmpressFionah just quoted above didn’t vote for her. Why? Because leadership is based on meritocracy and not gender-bias; the feeling of belonging with another in this case. If it was really about women knowing what women need they never would have chosen Uhuru over Karua and many other male MPs who had female competition and with majority of the populace in their constituencies  being women.

I’d like to conclude by saying that women can capture leadership positions without any special preferences being put in place as evidenced by the democratically elected women in parliament. Icons like Millie Odhiambo and Hon Gathogo. You just need to find out what they did to win their seats and am sure the answer will be a simple “Impressing your voters like hell!”


And now I’ll leave you with a quote from Colin Powell;

There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure.

Living and Staying Happy and Contented Always. Buddhism and its Relevance to Humanity.

Living and Staying Happy and Contented Always. Buddhism and its Relevance to Humanity.

Have you ever imagined not wanting anything? Feeling satisfied and contented just as you are. Happiness, fulfillment and being an achiever are states of the mind every human being desires.
Do you know that it is in this pursuit of happiness that one encounters quite the opposite of their aim- unhappiness and resentment. Look at a man or lady who goes out in search of a mate so as to avoid loneliness (a feeling desired much more than it is relished). In their venture they cone across people who either break their hearts or just don’t meet their expectations. In the long run one gets unhappier than they would have been had they not taken on the venture in the first place.


I wouldn’t say I know a lot about being happy. Now I come to think of it; I haven’t the faintest idea on how to be happy. But then I know a thing or two on how to avoid unhappiness which of course will lead you to the other side of the valley, that is, if you follow those steps.
For most of my discussion I’ll borrow a lot from Buddhism. It’s worth noting that Siddhartha Gautama, the founder if Buddhism couldn’t really be said of to have been unhappy in his earlier life. If anything, he was the son of the kung of Nepal and thus knew only of comfort and pleasure. But our little prince discovered that there were people who lived in suffering and I can therefore substantially claim that the cause of his unhappiness was seeing others suffer. What noble way for one to help his society! Buddha (as he later came to be known- which means the enlightened one) thus took on a mission to find an end to suffering. Holy men and philosophers advised him to give up comfort and pleasure. This was just as expected knowing too well the Bible teachings of one giving up ‘earthly pleasures for there are much better and everlasting heavenly pleasures awaiting them.’ And as you may have guessed he trued this out but successfully failed to end his suffering.
One day Buddha sat down under a bo tree and meditated within himself. He then came up with what he believed to be an end to suffering. Buddha basically taught that one should neither desire so much pleasure nor live in self denial. That people should follow a middle path between the extremes. And this is the fundamental principle on which Buddhism dwells. Buddha then came up with what he called THE FOUR NOBLE TRUTHS and it is these I would like to share with you.
The first truth states that ‘life is a suffering.’ With this in mind, one ought to be prepared for any unfortunate eventualities and thus reduce the level of impact it would have on them. Even in the best of times there always is a hitch which if one is not prepared to handle can have the worst of impacts on them. Always remember there is always that serpent in Eden and unlike Eve you should find a way of saying no to that apple.
The second noble truth maintains that ‘suffering comes from desire or attachment to the world.’ As earlier on illustrated, human suffering mainly stems from our desire for earthly pleasures. This is why the world is also comprised of rapists, muggers… name them who just can’t get enough of worldly pleasures. What worries not only me but also you who is reading this piece is that these guys inflict suffering on their victims.
The third noble truth states that ‘Attachment can be ended.’ I started by asking you to imagine never wanting anything and still be contented. But of course that’s impossible and neither do I advocate for it. But do you ever try not to want something you don’t need? Most probably a luxury item. Or maybe something you can’t afford and don’t necessarily have to have.
And the last noble truth yet probably the most important one Buddha christened the ‘Eightfold Path.’ This is a set of instructions and morals which when followed , he observed, could lead one to a state of happiness called nirvana. And it is these that I too try to emphasize on their practice. They include harboring right views, acting in the right manner with right intentions while putting the right effort in that action. You  shouldn’t give that which you know isn’t your best shot. Right mindedness will most definitely lead you to issuing right speeches. Making a living in the right way is the seventh of the eightfold paths the last being Daily meditation.
With these in mind and practice one most definitely finds it easy to maintain their happiness.IMG_253008845309087[1]